“One step at a time.” This is my mantra as I prepare to graduate in a few weeks.
There are lots of big questions for us right now. And honestly, there aren’t a lot of answers.
Maybe I should be more clear… We have literally no idea what we’re doing next.
Somehow, making our next decision feels like one of our biggest moments. Like it will be life changing. Nothing will be the same from now on.
For now, it seems like we have to figure out our whole lives. Come up with a 1-year, 2-year, 5-year plan. Consider every implication of every option. We’ve got it get it right. We need to know with certainty. “Now is the time! This is what we’ve been preparing for. This is our moment. Let’s change the world. Let’s do something big. Let’s do it now.”
Hold on, self.
Let’s just throw that idea away right now. Because it’s just unrealistic. What is all this pressure?
As I reflect on this stage of life, I’m realizing that there’s not a lot of space for transitions.
I don’t think we don’t give ourselves grace for the process. We pressure ourselves to solve for our… everything. It has to be a yes or no, in or out, up or down, here or there, instead of being okay with the weird, unresolved places with no answers.
When we don’t have the answers we want in the timing we want, we get anxious, scared, and angry. (Trust me, I fight these feelings all the time. God, why haven’t you given us any direction, at all?)
Not knowing is strange. As I talk about this with people around me, this creeping feeling of needing to justify our story arises.
But our story is different. Different than what I thought it would be. Different, in ways that many people around me seem to not understand. “What do you mean you don’t know what’s next? I mean, you guys are talking about it, right? How could you not know what’s most important for you? Where are you looking? What are you going to do?!”
Transitions are normal. The places you transition to and from will always be different than anyone else’s, and sometimes we don’t know where we’re going next. And that is completely okay. Better, even.
Because Jesus is still Jesus. And our lives are still his. And we’ll know with time what he’s leading us to next. And for now, we have lots to grow in here.
Call it our decision making process, but our lives look a little bit like this right now: We laugh together. We listen. We communicate our thoughts and feelings. We share our dreams, our goals, our ideas. We encourage each other. We stand for each other. We are growing together. We are learning more about ourselves. We’re deepening our love for Jesus. We drink coffee with each other. We cook together. We eat together. We make fun of each other. We fight with each other. We apologize for our wrongs. We challenge each other. We explore together. We get excited about the possibilities before us, and fight feelings of fear that we might make the wrong choice.
Our plans fluctuate by the day, by the hour. And that’s okay.
We’re thriving where we are. And that’s more than enough.